Welcome! Sedna’s Daughters is a virtual home for women who have been shunned by their biological families. This site provides resources to help daughters understand family estrangement, engage in an international conversation about their experiences, and find the support they need to heal, regardless of where they are in their healing process or why we were shunned.
Regardless of your biological family’s religious beliefs, race, country of origin, or social class, all families in the world shun daughters for the same reason: we would not follow the spoken or unspoken family rules. We are shunned because we would not comply or submit to the family’s expectations that we maintain our assigned role in their system. This “system” is most often an unconscious, unspoken set of family rules that have very real, everyday consequences, but often the family rules are directly and severely enforced as well.
Some of the reasons daughters are shunned include: refusing to be the family slave, pregnancy before marriage, not complying to religious rules, marrying a person of another race or religion, disclosing incest or childhood molestation/rape by a family member, gender identity, sexual orientation, rejecting family’s religion or political beliefs, getting an education, speaking out about favoritism of a sibling, and many, many more…
Daughters are often scapegoated (irrationally blamed for all a family’s problems), and this scapegoating is used to justify the shunning. But when it comes to families–human groups that are supposed to be based in unconditional love and solace for all its members–there is NO justification for shunning. The purpose of a family is to LOVE its members. Where there is no love, there is no family.
Families who shun their daughters have failed their daughters.
It is up to us, the daughters who survived devastating betrayal, to continue our lives–for ourselves, our ancestors, our children, and other daughters who need our support. We are many, and together, we can heal ourselves and this world.