Welcome! Sedna’s Daughters is a virtual home for women who have been shunned by their biological and/or adoptive families. This site provides resources to help daughters understand family and cultural dynamics, engage in an international conversation about their experiences, and find the support they need to heal, regardless of where they are in their healing process or why we were shunned.
Regardless of your biological family’s religious beliefs, race, country of origin, or social class, all families in the world shun daughters for the same reason: we would not follow the spoken or unspoken family rules. We are shunned because we would not comply or submit to the family’s expectations that we maintain our assigned role in their system. This “system” is most often an unconscious, unspoken set of rules created by the cultures where the families live. These cultural rules may be invisible and unconsciously acted out by family members, but they have very real, everyday consequences to daughters. Often the family rules are severely enforced.
Some of the reasons daughters are shunned include:
Refusing to be the family slave
Pregnancy before marriage
Not complying to religious rules
Marrying a person of another race or religion
Disclosing incest or childhood molestation/rape by a family member
Gender identity or sexual orientation
Rejecting the family’s religion or political beliefs
Getting an education
Speaking out about favoritism of a sibling
Refusing to comply with arranged marriages….and many more.
Daughters are often scapegoated (irrationally blamed for all a family’s problems), and this scapegoating is used to justify the shunning. But when it comes to families–human groups that are supposed to be based in unconditional love and solace for all its members–there is NO justification for shunning. The purpose of a family is to LOVE its members. Where there is no love, there is no family.
Families who shun their daughters have failed their daughters.
It is up to us, the daughters who survived betrayal and irrational slander by people who were supposed to love and respect us, to reclaim and heal our lives–for ourselves, our ancestors, our children, and other daughters who need our support around the world. We are many, and together, we can heal ourselves and promulgate an international dialogue about Family Violence Against Women–to stop it!